Author: Ps. Benedict Eghan

THE BIBLE: ERRORS, NO! Part 1 Note: These are summarized compilations from the book, “When Critics Ask”, authored by Norman Geisler and Thomas Howe. Critics claim the Bible is filled with errors. Some even speak of thousands of mistakes. The truth is there is not even one demonstrated error in the original text of the Bible. This is not to say that there are no difficulties in our Bibles. There are, and that is what these series are all about. They are only to point out that there are no actual errors; in the Scriptures. Why? Because the Bible is…

(The role of Discipline in Building Boundaries) When we became believers and were born again by the Spirit of God, our spirits were made new but not our mind or our bodies. Those we must renew through knowledge and growth. The challenge we face is learning how to handle ourselves with a new spirit dwelling in an “old” mind and body that don’t know how to behave. We have to learn how to live and act as children of God. This is probably nowhere harder to do than in premarital relationships. Our newborn spirits tell us one thing, while our…

We have in our earlier series looked at what it means to have boundaries in your premarital relationships. Thereafter, we looked at one type of such boundaries – Sexual and emotional boundaries. In this series, we shall be looking at three other forms or types of boundaries that we need to build in our premarital relationships. Spiritual Boundaries A spiritual boundary occurs when you retain space for yourself spiritually. That is, your relationship with God and the church should not necessarily depend on your premarital partner. You must put in mechanisms to protect your relationship with God at a…

(Sexual and emotional boundaries ) The pre-marital relationship is precarious because you are more than friends but less than spouses and the status of your relationship can change at any moment because dating comes with limited commitment levels. As a Christian, you are called to protect your own heart, “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it” (Proverbs 4:23, NIV).  There are several ways to guard our hearts and control our emotions. Do nothing to suggest to the other in a manner that calls for sex and its related acts. Know what to discuss especially when…

In premarital relationships, we are sometimes tempted to think of boundaries as unnecessary. Unfortunately, that is what the world has made many young people believe. For some, anything at all goes as far as “we are in love”. For they think boundaries interfere with the romance and spontaneity of a relationship? The truth be told that all healthy relationships have boundaries. A healthy relationship in this context is the premarital kind of relationship that honours God, especially in the area of sexual purity. Boundaries are personal fences you place around yourself, defining what you will and you won’t do…

(What “Sexual Experience” is) Sexual experience or activity in a premarital relationship is any act carried out by the couple to satisfy inherent sexual needs or desires. It can also be seen as any behaviour that someone engages in consensually with the other partner that is considered sexual by the involving partners through the satisfaction that comes along with it. This may include genital sex (penetration), kissing, fondling, oral sex, naked body rubbing, audio or video sex etc. The Bible doesn’t give a list of sexual stuff you can do in premarital relationships simply because you are not supposed to…

(Flee Sexual Immorality!!) Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body. 1 Cor. 6:18 NIV Our society has been very effective in reducing sex to a mere biological act for immediate gratification.  It is no surprise that we live in a very sex-saturated society. Sexual images, content, and innuendos are seen and heard constantly in music, commercials, magazines, billboards, newspaper adverts, movies, internet sites, books, etc. Sex is everywhere because industry giants have learned that “sex sells.” So today, it is normal to have a…

Has it ever occurred to you that when you engage in sexual intercourse, you give the most precious part of yourself away? You need to know that the person you are engaging in it with will respect, love, and look after you, so you won’t be hurt. Marriage allows you to give to each other with freedom and joy.  If you have sex with someone else, you are stealing that freedom from yourself, from your partner, and the spouses, you both might have in the future. The single person’s sexuality is expressed in learning to accept and control his or…

Biblical and Worldly – The Differences.  Flowing from the previous edition, I have outlined a few differences between the biblical-based premarital relationship and the worldly-based premarital relationship. The world’s view of premarital relationships, either expressed in dating or courting, assumes that there will be several intimate romantic relationships in a person’s life before marriage. The world believes in a high level of emotional involvement in premarital relationships, and some level of physical involvement as well. As an ideal thing to do, it advocates “playing the field” to determine “what one wants” in a mate, thereby introducing terms like “sexual compatibility”.…

No area of life falls totally outside of the guidance and authority of God’s Word. My point is that we cannot simply state that the Bible “doesn’t mention premarital relationship” or it “doesn’t mention dating or courtship,” and then think we can do what we think is right in our own eyes. It is important for us to always acknowledge the understanding that the whole idea of marriage did not emanate from man’s wisdom but God’s. This presupposes that we cannot pursue the process towards such an important divine by our terms but His – which is His Word.  Again,…