Author: Ps. Benedict Eghan

The world today’s young people have inherited for pursuing premarital relationships, leaves a lot to be desired.  Surveys consistently indicate that professing Christians behave almost exactly like non-Christians in terms of sexual involvement outside of marriage. Interestingly, when it comes to relationships before marriage, perhaps more than in any other area of the everyday Christian life, the church largely seems not to be different from the world. This is a sad reality. No wonder marriages of many young Christian couples today suffer a lot of mishaps including high divorce rates. Marriage, which is meant to bring fulfilment end up becoming…

(Knowing the Rules of Engagement) For every societal engagement, there are some underlying rules. In this series, I shall continue with the rules of engagement by looking at the rule 3, 4 and 5. Third Rule – Do not pursue the relationship at the expense of your relationship with God Unfortunately, many young people are ready to sacrifice their relationship with God for a relationship with other fellow human beings. They tend to believe that all that it is in life is to marry and that they are ready to do anything, for, in their minds, the end always justifies…

(Knowing the Rules of Engagement) For every societal engagement, there are some underlying rules. In part 3 and 4 of these series, I seek to outline some five basic rules that one may have to look at when engaging the subject of premarital relationship.   The First Rule – Love the Lord, your God The first rule in premarital relationships is what Jesus referred to as the greatest of all the commandments: “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength” (Mk 12:30).…

This is part 2 of a 15-part series from my yet to be published book, “Getting it Right – Building a Godly Foundation for a Godly Marriage”. This book provides an in-depth discussion on the subject of premarital relationships and how the young Christian should conduct himself or herself in this sacred path towards marriage. Getting it Right before taking a decision is always better than getting it right after the decision has been taken and have been faced with the implications for such wrong decisions. We can save ourselves from unwanted pain and the associated emotional scars, bitterness resulting…

This is part 1 of a 15-part series from my yet to be published book, “Getting it Right – Building a Godly Foundation for a Godly Marriage”. This book provides an in-depth discussion on the subject of premarital relationships and how the young Christian should conduct himself or herself in this sacred path towards marriage. Getting it Right before taking a decision is always better than getting it right after the decision has been taken and have been faced with the implications for such wrong decisions. We can save ourselves from unwanted pain and the associated emotional scars and bitterness…

This is the continuation of the article on dealing with broken relationships in the area of premarital relationships. In the part 1 of this article we made mention of three important steps – being real about the pain associated with the break-up, looking up to God, the Healer of broken heartedness and taking Good Care of yourself. In this article we will continue with four other steps. Engage in things that will make you laugh It is said that laughter is one of life’s best medicines; and in such circumstances of a broken relationship, it could be a great therapeutic tool for…

Dealing with a broken relationship can be one of the most difficult things one may ever have to deal with, and it is something no one wishes for. Fortunately or unfortunately, having to deal with a broken relationship; be it pre-marital or marital has become a reality as far as our love life is concerned. This article is limited to handling broken relationships in pre-marital relationships. While some may consider a break-up in a pre-marital relationship as positive for them as a result of some happenings in the relationship which they consider as unhealthy, others consider it as a total…

John 21:15-19 (NKJV) 15 So when they had eaten breakfast, Jesus said to Simon Peter, “Simon, son of Jonah,* do you love Me more than these?” He said to Him, “Yes, Lord; You know that I love You.”He said to him, “Feed My lambs.” 16 He said to him again a second time, “Simon, son of Jonah,* do you love Me?” He said to Him, “Yes, Lord; You know that I love You.” He said to him, “Tend My sheep.” 17 He said to him the third time, “Simon, son of Jonah,* do you love Me?” Peter was grieved because He said to him the third time, “Do you love Me?” And he said to Him, “Lord, You know all things; You know that…

2 Tim 1:7 (NKJV): For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love  and of a sound mind. Just a look at Peter and one could realize that he had great love for the things of God. He was willing to give his all to the Lord, yet he feared. At a point in time, he had to deny Jesus despite swearing to be with him till the very end. In Mathew 14 we are told of how Peter after being invited by Jesus to join him in walking on the lake, began to…

Mark 10:28 (NIV) Peter said to him, “We have left everything to follow you!”              1 Chronicles 28:9-10 (NIV) “And you, my son Solomon, acknowledge the God of your father, and serve him with wholehearted devotion and with a willing mind, for the Lord searches every heart and understands every motive behind the thoughts. If you seek him, he will be found by you; but if you forsake him, he will reject you forever. 10Consider now, for the Lord has chosen you to build a temple as a sanctuary. Be strong and do the work.”  Peter may have fallen at times, but he was committed…